via blackraincloud
Isn’t it possible to see both sides of the situation and understand them without deciding to be against either? Throughout this whole discussion I have seen both sides be extremely disrespectful to one another and I think everyone is at fault, while at the same time making valid arguments. I don’t think people HAVE to pick a side nor is it wrong to stand firm in your own stance. We can respectfully disagree and still be adults about it/ like each other. blacklightyogini
“We can respectfully disagree and still be adults about it/ like each other.” No we cannot. Being an “adult” does not mean”agreeing to disagree,” refraining from insults or curse words, or liking people who are hurting you. Or anyone, really. It’s okay to stay out of a thread and not say shit. It is not okay to come in and declare everything “equal” because 1) it’s not 2) who the fuck are you to say so? “Throughout this whole discussion I have seen both sides be extremely disrespectful” What does “disrespectful” mean to you? Because many folks, me included, are wary of folks who equate “respect” with: not showing anger, not saying curse words, not directly saying to a person why and how you think they’re wrong and/or have hurt you. “Respectfully disagreeing” is harmful when people are addressing conflict, hurt, oppression— shit that matters. We can maybe “respectfully disagree” about N Sync being better than the Backstreet boys. But to insist on “respectability” and “agreeing to disagree” when there is ACTUAL HURT AND CONFLICT GOING ON is actively keeping people from resolving issues that are causing hurt.
“We can respectfully disagree and still be adults about it/ like each other.”
It’s okay to stay out of a thread and not say shit. It is not okay to come in and declare everything “equal” because 1) it’s not 2) who the fuck are you to say so?
“Throughout this whole discussion I have seen both sides be extremely disrespectful”
“Respectfully disagreeing” is harmful when people are addressing conflict, hurt, oppression— shit that matters. We can maybe “respectfully disagree” about N Sync being better than the Backstreet boys. But to insist on “respectability” and “agreeing to disagree” when there is ACTUAL HURT AND CONFLICT GOING ON is actively keeping people from resolving issues that are causing hurt.
