As I said, the intent is the problem. She could say “Hey, you guys may not realize it, but this is a form of racism. It may seem harmless, but it is offensive to a large group of individuals. We are all people, so why can’t we just respect each other? Let’s work together to try and stop this.” But instead, she responds with “Hey you racist sonuvabitch, pack your bags ‘cause we’re going on a guilt trip!”
So I know that if she sees what I have said here, it will pretty much result in her calling me a selfish white asshole with butthurt. She can think whatever she wants about me and my comments, but I still want to know why combating racism with racism seems like something that will get results.
I’m going to try and be succinct.
What you’re saying is that whenever we see/hear someone being/doing something racist…we should consider their feelings.
No matter how much they’ve hurt us.
See, being polite only gets you so far, it’s like dealing with puppies, me going ”No no no.” in my polite voice is going to get me heard maybe, but not necessarily acknowledged or listened to. Me going “WHAT THE FUCK IS YOU DOING?” is going to make you jump, now you can jump in 2 directions, the “NO I AM A GOOD PERSON, YOU JUST SUCK.” or “SHIT I’M SORRY.”
Intent doesn’t matter, you may not have intended to punch me in the face, but that doesn’t make the punch hurt less. You still fucking punched me in the face and I would like you to stop punching me and others like me in the face.
If you refuse to do so because someone “was mean” or “hurt my feeeeeeeeeelllliiiinnnnnggs” then who is really the shitty person in that scenario?
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