“The trouble is that, for women, being “nice” often translates into putting up with things we should never put up with. How many times has some creep sat uncomfortably close to me on the bus and stared me down, yet I’m too afraid to just get up and move, lest I offend him?
We smile when we’re harassed on the street or hit on by jerks. We laugh at sexist jokes. We learn that when we have strong opinions, we’ll be called bitches and that if we get angry, we’ll be called hysterical. When we say what we want, we’re called pushy or aggressive.
Part of learning “ladylike” behavior is about learning to smile politely when someone is being crude. Femininity has long been attached to passivity and to being docile. Men fight, women giggle and fume silently.”—Women And Girls Don’t Need To Be Told To Be Nicer (via idioticteen)
“Woody Allen is a living testament to the way our society fails the survivors of sexual assault and abuse.
So imagine your seven-year-old daughter being led into an attic by Woody Allen. Imagine she spends a lifetime stricken with nausea at the mention of his name. Imagine a world that celebrates her tormenter.
Are you imagining that? Now, what’s your favorite Woody Allen movie?”—
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You may see yourself as ‘indie’ or ‘punk’, but at least you have entire societies (and music industries) in your favour that are basically open and affirmative to you expressing your whole experience as PERSONS. They are not rewarding you ONLY when you sing and perform how sexually available you are to guys.
“The problem is that you don’t just choose recovery. You have to keep choosing recovery, over and over and over again. You have to make that choice 5-6 times each day. You have to make that choice even when you really don’t want to. It’s not a single choice, and it’s not easy.”—Marya Hornbacher (via reinventingmelena)
This society is going to become more supremely racist when it is apparently not racist. And that’s where it’s moving to at this point. When a white man tells you, ‘let’s not put race into this,’ he is being the most racist at that point.
You can have a society that removes all public expression on racism. You can have a society were people no longer overtly express racial hatred, and racist statements and behavior is outlawed, but you can still have a system that destroys millions and millions of Black people. Colin Powell and others are the signs of that kind of racism where the Black middle class will be sitting in these jobs and positions defending the system.
You must recognize that racism is not an attitude. It is not a feeling of hatred toward another people. You must understand that racism and white supremacy is in the very structures and values of the institutions of the society itself. And until you revolve and change those structures and attitudes and values you will always be under the bottom.
Dr. Amos N. Wilson
Explaining racism and predicting the future almost twenty years ago (early 90’s). (Source)
This would be why love, friendship, sex, being nice etc. or these individualistic indulgent and at times performative things will NOT eradicate racism. It will be actual work dismantling the institution of racism that is required. (I will say that Powell, for example, had many years of defending the system but regularly critiques racism now. This quote still on point though. Whew.)
“We men are deplorable, dependent creatures. But compared with these women, every one of us is king, for he stands more or less on his own two feet, not constantly waiting for something outside of himself to cling to. They, however, always wait for someone to come along who will use them as he sees fit. If this does not happen, they simply fall to pieces.”—
The fact the Einstein was a raging misogynist kind of makes sense, given that it is widely speculated his first wife made significant contributions to the Theory of Relativity, but was completely unacknowledged (especially after he left her for his cousin).
There is more and more evidence that Mileva Einstein-Maric (Einstein’s first wife) is the coauthor of “The Theory of Relativity.” Recently published letters between Mileva Maric and Albert Einstein are shedding light on who is the author(s) of the “Theory of Relativity.” Albert Einstein received the Nobel Prize in 1921: he gave all the money from the Nobel Prize to his ex-wife - Mileva Maric- this was the condition for the divorce settlement. Einstein did not leave any documents which acknowledged the contribution of Mileva Maric to the Theory of Relativity.
In 1905, several articles bearing the name of Albert Einstein appeared in the Annalen der Physik - a Germans Physics Journal where the Theory of Relativity was published. The paper dealing with relativity was entitled Zur Elektrodynamik bewegter Korper. Only Albert Einstein’s name appeared in the journal as author. According to Abram Fedorovich Joffe, the original paper was signed “Einstein-Marity.” ”Marity” is a variant of the Serbian “Maric”, Mileva’s maiden name. Mileva Maric Einstein’s name was left out when publication of the article took place, but Joffe saw the original 1905 manuscript.
"How happy I will be when the two of us together will have brought our work on the relative motion to a victorious conclusion."
A young Albert Einstein wrote these words to his first wife, Mileva, shortly before publishing the Theory of Relativity. The release of letters like this one has scholars arguing over Mileva’s contribution to relativity. They met at Zurich’s prestigious Swiss Polytechnic School: Mileva was the only woman in the class, and only the fifth in the school’s history. The daughter of a wealthy Serbian family, Mileva excelled at physics and math, and was devoted to her studies until she met Albert Einstein. The two brilliant scientists fell in love. They lived and worked together. But more interested in their own work than their classes, both failed their final exams. Einstein passed on a second attempt. Unmarried and pregnant, Mileva failed hers again. Einstein never met his daughter… and no one is sure what happened to the baby. Einstein and Mileva later married and had two sons. Mileva focused her energies on Albert’s career. Some scholars believe Mileva did the math for the Theory of Relativity, others say she corrected Einstein’s math, and still others claim she was even more deeply involved. The paper outlining the theory is signed with a hyphenated name Einstein-Marty, the Hungarian form of her maiden name Maric.
Before the work was published, Albert Einstein left his wife and two sons. He never acknowledged his first wife or her work.
He did, however, give Mileva all of the Nobel Prize money. But, the money didn’t last long: Mileva was sick, and caring for their mentally ill (schizophrenic) son. Einstein went on to great acclaim, but he never again produced physics equal to the work he did while married to his first wife and collaborator, Mileva Maric.
Funny (not.) how although coming from an oppressed speaking position, we constantly have to turn down offers to 'speak', in order to not entirely corrupt what it is we're working for:
Most events, also those which revolve around power structures, ‘post’colonialism etc. as a subject, reproduce precisely the oppressive structures that are keeping us from ‘speaking’ (being heard, understood, able to share thoughts without having to bend ourselves or our content to appease the oppressive perspective, also, without having to anticipate repressions for voicing factual truths, and an absence of micro and macro abuse for existing in the place). So we are asked to negotiate [our] humanity in a colonial framework in which colonial positions are reaffirmed and re-staged over and over again.
We are asked to serve interests and answer questions that are not and have never been our own. To explain, so that other people’s PhD’s can be done and their anthologies published, without the slightest necessity for them to possess any practical understanding of the effects of their own colonial hierarchies.
It is not theory. None of it is. It is a life live experience. It takes cynicism and vulgarity to consider our struggles, our survival strategies, our fights, our analyses primarily a ‘topic’, ‘field of study’ or ‘case made’. It takes a supremacist’s conviction to believe an engagement on such agendas to be a favour for us or it to be ‘in our own interest’ to attend anything because it is remotely mentioning or discussing Blackness or equality. Assuming what is our own interest in general. It is a sign of disrespect, privilege, and limited consciousness (single-consciousness) to not have any constraint when asking us to be of use, serve, collaborate in an endeavour in which other people study, discuss or negotiate our own lives and history.
omfg i just ordered pizza and as i was about to hang up i said love you out of habit and the guy said it back and after a whole minute of dead silence he just tells me that he hopes that i’m not expecting a discount on the pizza just cause we confessed our undying love for each other
“When people fight you to shut you up about a topic like race—and sexism, it means that you have stumbled upon the cultural silence that must be patrolled in order to maintain hegemony.”—Junot Díaz (via ethiopienne) #hollaback (via hollabackberlin)
“People of color have survived centuries of unspeakable violence against our cultures and our spirits. The cultures we have built today, in all their vibrancy and richness, are testaments to our strength and survival. Therefore, they have incredible meaning to us. When white folks just put them on like a pair of shoes, they neutralize years of resistance and celebration. The day when all peoples have equal access to large-scale media, when all peoples can travel with the same freedom, when all peoples have equal and humanized representation in the global cultural landscape, THEN we can talk about cultural exchange and how cultures can benefit from influencing each other. Until then, it’s just plain stealing.”—I’m Sorry Whiteness, You Can’t have Everything (via thetart)